Comments on: Assignment 2 “what if”

By: Martine

Martine — Wed, 02 May 2012 00:59:35 +0000

Assignment 2 “what if”
1. Notice some action that you’ve been avoiding. It could be anything from going to the gym to calling someone on the phone or creating plans for someone you want or need to do.
Creating my website…

2. See if there are any “What if’s” that are in your way. “What if I fail?” “What if it’s too hard?” “What if I’m too tired?”
What if…not good enough, people are not attracted to it(that’s what came up!!!), I fail in sending the right message accross, being clear, don’t produce results (I sure don’t with no website at all) people don’t like me (wow)

3. Find the occurrings relating to those “What if’s” by answering the “What if” questions. Your answers to these questions are additional occurrings.
I’m not good enough, I’m not capable, I’m have fear of failure, failure is bad.

4. Notice the reality of the situation. What’s really happening? Right now.
All those occurrings are creating so much fear, anxiety and lack of confidence that I stopped myself from doing any action towards starting my website

5. Distinguish between what is actually happening in the physical world and your occurrings, the meaning you are giving the events that exists only in your mind.
Creating my website is an event I want to do
All the negative meaning- the occurrings attached to the “what if” is preventing me to go ahead.

6. Take note of whether your feelings dissolve or not and post your results below.
Without all these negative thoughts, this is a creative process I could have fun with, test it & change it i I want.
By doing it sooner than later, I could help so many people by what I share & by offering my services which I’m good at and do what I love to do. Why wait? Feelings of excitement & empowerment. TKS

By: Benjamin Parry

Benjamin Parry — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 10:06:16 +0000

1. Notice some action that you’ve been avoiding.

I’ve been avoiding following up with a prospective employer after an interview I had a few weeks ago

2. See if there are any “What if’s” that are in your way.

What if I annoy them and they change their mind about me? What if they see me as too pushy?

3. Find the occurrings relating to those “What if’s” by answering the “What if” questions. Your answers to these questions are additional occurrings.

If they see me as too pushy or annoying then they wont hire me and I won’t get the job i want, I’ll be stuck in my current job being miserable

4. Notice the reality of the situation. What’s really happening? Right now.

Right now, I’m reading the response they sent me after the interview and waiting. If i choose to act, all that will happen is that i will type out some words and send it to them

5. Distinguish between what is actually happening in the physical world and your occurrings, the meaning you are giving the events that exists only in your mind.

Right now there is absolutely no connection between my occurings and what the reality is – I am creating a future horror story over the top of what is just a fact of business with no inherent meaning

6. Take note of whether your feelings dissolve or not and post your results below.

I feel I am able to act – there is nothing stopping me now, I’m also feeling very connected to my heart and unaffected by the world around me

By: Kat

Kat — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 02:11:17 +0000

1. Event : starting a business for which I received recent training.
2. What ifs: What if I start it and I can’t help anyone? What if no one wants to retain me? What if I fail? What if I don’t have enough time to do the business and my school? What if I look like an idiot to people?
3. I will look like a fraud and look stupid. I will be a failure and there will be no bailout to look forward to. There will be no second chance – game over. The business will fail and I will have invested money for nothing. Then all the posturing I have done to appear smart will have been for nothing. I will lose all respect. People will laugh at me.
4. What’s really happening – I took training and have the skills to start my own business. If I don’t try, then there will be no business to succeed or fail.
5. The distinction is in reality I have prepared to do this business … that is real, but the what ifs are only thoughts and are not real at all.
6. I feel lighter … Releasing what ifs is very liberating.

By: Ilyas

Ilyas — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 07:33:25 +0000

1. Avoiding visiting organizations to find a job.
2. What if they reject me? What if I can get a job just by staying at home. What if I don’t need anybody’s help? What if I donot want to stay in this city?
3. The Occurring involved: I feel frustrated thinking I will be rejected. I felt powerless as I thought I might leave this town because of the bad weather so there is no need to look for a job, because if I find one, I will stay here. I do not want to stay here, this means I will not move to look for a job and the people here are not helpful.
4. The reality of the situation. It is raining here as many places. Jobs are not easy to find nowadays because of recession. But If I decide to stay , I need to move and look for a job and build friendships. Or I have to move to other city, but I need to move and look for satisfying job.
5. Reality: This is part of descion process whether I will look for just a job or community to live for long time. It seems that I have to decide first whether to stay in this city or move to other one to start my future community and work.
6 I felt relieved

By: Kyle Whitford

Kyle Whitford — Tue, 24 Apr 2012 23:11:37 +0000

1- Avoiding getting one of my computers fully restored after a crash.
2-What if it’s just time to buy a new one? What if I go to all the trouble and it crashes again.
3- Experience tells me all computers go down after awhile. Shouldn’t I go with the ‘solution after next’?
What is that?
4-I use the computer and others and they work fine to facilitate what I need.
5-Contrast- My ruminating is just bothersome- The reality is things are OK.
6- Lessened negative feelings. Relieved.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Fri, 20 Apr 2012 00:25:33 +0000

avoiding: making love to my husband
feeling: fear/resistance
Q) What if it’s too painful again…
A) I’ll be sorry and it’s not worth it.
Event Reality: I’m thinking about making love.
Meaning: My mind is making up scenarios and fears based on past events.
The fears dissipate when I realize I’m contemplating making love……and my mind is imagining hurting myself.
Making love in THIS moment is a brand new experience that hasn’t yet happened.

Keeping the mind in the moment to moment reality is a challenge!
thank you,
Debbie

By: Mohammed Ismail

Mohammed Ismail — Wed, 18 Apr 2012 16:37:07 +0000

1.Avoiding social situations
2.What if Iam criticized,judged or rejected?
3.people always busy to notice me.
4.I see only people minding ther business
5.the meanings are only in my mind.
6. partially dissolved

By: Hans

Hans — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 00:50:40 +0000

1. Notice some action that you’ve been avoiding: I’ve been avoiding being in contact with my family in different ways, choosing not to wish them happy birthday, only calling them a couple times a year.

2. What if I don’t have anything to say? They won’t benefit from the conversation. They will think I don’t care about them. They’ll tell me not to contact them in the future, etc.

3. Find the occurrings relating to those “What if’s”. They won’t want to talk with me. They won’t like me anymore. I’ll be ostracized. I’ll be alone. etc.

4. What’s really happening? Right now. I’m thinking of using a reminder system to tell me when my family members birthdays are.

5. Distinguish between what is actually happening in the physical world and your occurrings. What’s actually happening is simply a thought process about placing a reminder in a folder. The occurings are wild imaginations that have no reality.

6. When I think of placing the reminder in the folder I have feelings at all, instead of a flood of anxiety.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 19:30:47 +0000

1. Notice some action that you’ve been avoiding.
Going out with friends because I am in pain due to a break up.

2. See if there are any “What if’s” that are in your way. “What if I fail?” “What if it’s too hard?” “What if I’m too tired?”
What if I go and I am overwhelmed with my feelings, things remind me of him and I end up feeling worse and want to just leave?

3. Find the occurrings relating to those “What if’s” by answering the “What if” questions. Your answers to these questions are additional occurrings.
What if I go and get overwhelmed and feel sick and I can’t contain myself and my friends won’t know how to console me and I will have ruined the night for everyone?

4. Notice the reality of the situation. What’s really happening? Right now.
I need to give myself a break. I just broke up with my boyfriend who I still love and still want it to work. It doesn’t make me bad. It makes me human. Going out could actually help me to feel a bit better. I won’t know if I don’t try.

5. Distinguish between what is actually happening in the physical world and your occurrings, the meaning you are giving the events that exists only in your mind.
I don’t need to be afraid of going out with my friends, but I don’t need to force myself either. It really isn’t about going out with my friends at all, it is my belief about myself because of the break up. That is the issue.

6. Take note of whether your feelings dissolve or not and post your results below.
I feel better about the thought of the stress of going out with friends because it seems to be what is expected of people when they are going through a tough moment. I will feel better about this situation eventually. I will end up going out with my friends again and I know I can enjoy myself. I have in the past before the boyfriend and I will in the future without him too. I can enjoy my life without him there. I don’t need him as the source of my happiness.

By: Shelby

Shelby — Sun, 15 Apr 2012 07:07:03 +0000

1. I have been avoiding/given up on getting a job.
2. What if I fail what if I am not good enough not qualified enough not up on the latest technology enough don’t have the clothes to wear. . .etc
3.I am sooooo stuck I can think of only a long list of reasons to back up the what ifs: I don’t have nice clothes to make it in the work place I am not up on the latest technology so others automatically have a jump on the job anyway, I can’t get past entry level jobs no confidence.
4. reality is I need to make the first step and apply; anyway easier said than done. the overwhelming feeling is still there I have not MADE it this far in life and can’t seem to do what it takes to get MADE I have a college education and do understand and can learn the latest but. . .
I can understand it’s in my mind and starts with my thoughts but not able to separate. Feeling more like a failure cause I am not able to do this program. tears flow down my face
5.Actually seems to amplify what I am already feeling