Comments for The Occurring Course

Comment on Can just one idea dissolve stress in 3 minutes? by Danny

Danny — Fri, 11 May 2012 20:45:16 +0000

Hey Morty

I got an idea for you. You can do the occurring course on streaming video (like NC) like this:

A section to describe your techniques, and a section to solve the most common problems (or all problems) that the students might come across. I’m sure you’ll add some more features, but this is my suggestion. I would really like to take the course, but I’m living across the ocean.

Your work is priceless, and it must be spreaded.

Comment on Assignment 2 “what if” by Martine

Martine — Wed, 02 May 2012 00:59:35 +0000

Assignment 2 “what if”
1. Notice some action that you’ve been avoiding. It could be anything from going to the gym to calling someone on the phone or creating plans for someone you want or need to do.
Creating my website…

2. See if there are any “What if’s” that are in your way. “What if I fail?” “What if it’s too hard?” “What if I’m too tired?”
What if…not good enough, people are not attracted to it(that’s what came up!!!), I fail in sending the right message accross, being clear, don’t produce results (I sure don’t with no website at all) people don’t like me (wow)

3. Find the occurrings relating to those “What if’s” by answering the “What if” questions. Your answers to these questions are additional occurrings.
I’m not good enough, I’m not capable, I’m have fear of failure, failure is bad.

4. Notice the reality of the situation. What’s really happening? Right now.
All those occurrings are creating so much fear, anxiety and lack of confidence that I stopped myself from doing any action towards starting my website

5. Distinguish between what is actually happening in the physical world and your occurrings, the meaning you are giving the events that exists only in your mind.
Creating my website is an event I want to do
All the negative meaning- the occurrings attached to the “what if” is preventing me to go ahead.

6. Take note of whether your feelings dissolve or not and post your results below.
Without all these negative thoughts, this is a creative process I could have fun with, test it & change it i I want.
By doing it sooner than later, I could help so many people by what I share & by offering my services which I’m good at and do what I love to do. Why wait? Feelings of excitement & empowerment. TKS

Comment on Assignment 1 by Martine

Martine — Wed, 02 May 2012 00:24:21 +0000

Think of a recent event and run through the following steps.

1. Notice the negative feeling you are having.
Anxious, mad at myself

2. Notice the meaning that is producing the feeling.
I should be able to decide & know what I want. I’m always having a hard time to choose what to do & just do it.

3. Distinguish between the meaning and the events.
Meaning: I’m not capable, which is such a negative belief
Event: Choosing a house, which is exciting, fun if you’re curious like me. No reason to rush, I’ll know when I find what I want
4. Notice how the feeling has changed.
Very much so from beating myself up to excitement & fun depending on my meaning versus other’s expectations or my own demanding expectation

Comment on Assignment 2 “what if” by Benjamin Parry

Benjamin Parry — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 10:06:16 +0000

1. Notice some action that you’ve been avoiding.

I’ve been avoiding following up with a prospective employer after an interview I had a few weeks ago

2. See if there are any “What if’s” that are in your way.

What if I annoy them and they change their mind about me? What if they see me as too pushy?

3. Find the occurrings relating to those “What if’s” by answering the “What if” questions. Your answers to these questions are additional occurrings.

If they see me as too pushy or annoying then they wont hire me and I won’t get the job i want, I’ll be stuck in my current job being miserable

4. Notice the reality of the situation. What’s really happening? Right now.

Right now, I’m reading the response they sent me after the interview and waiting. If i choose to act, all that will happen is that i will type out some words and send it to them

5. Distinguish between what is actually happening in the physical world and your occurrings, the meaning you are giving the events that exists only in your mind.

Right now there is absolutely no connection between my occurings and what the reality is – I am creating a future horror story over the top of what is just a fact of business with no inherent meaning

6. Take note of whether your feelings dissolve or not and post your results below.

I feel I am able to act – there is nothing stopping me now, I’m also feeling very connected to my heart and unaffected by the world around me

Comment on Assignment 1 by Nette

Nette — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 00:40:55 +0000

Think of a recent event and run through the following steps.
Recently my Mum was ill and in hospital. I had been visiting the hospital every day, dealing with doctors and I was generally very stressed with the worry over mum’s condition. Finally, things were settling down a bit, so I took the morning off and went to my yoga class. Aaah!
As I was leaving, my phone rang and it was my brother. He came on the phone yelling at me, “What are we going to do about Mum?” – no hello, how are you?, how are you bearing up?, just straight into the yelling. I told him what was happening and he started going into all sorts of scaremonger scenarios of what her future may hold. I asked him to stop talking like that or I’d hang up. He continued. I asked him again. He continued. I told him that if he didn’t stop NOW I would hang up. He continued. I hung up.
Since then, he has avoided me, not answered any of my messages and has generally cut himself off from me.
1. Notice the negative feeling you are having.
I feel so very hurt. I feel left out and cut off. I also feel angry that he attacked me and even after I told him what would happen if he continued, that he did continue with the same behaviour. And that now he is ostracising me because of his own bad behaviour. But mostly I feel really hurt.
2. Notice the meaning that is producing the feeling.
The meaning for me is “I am attacked”, “I am unappreciated”, “I am overwhelmed with the responsibility of looking after Mum’s needs”, “I am unsupported”
3. Distinguish between the meaning and the events.
The event was that my brother called to say that he was concerned about Mum’s wellbeing. The meaning I gave it was that he was telling me that I wasn’t doing enough. That I’m not good enough. That I should be doing more.
4. Notice how the feeling has changed.
The connotations I have been putting on this situation is that my brother is not speaking to me because I hung up the phone. The truth is probably more that he is busy with work. He is worried about Mum. He feels guilty because he can’t do more for her (because of his location and work commitments) and that all of this has nothing to do with me or my actions.
Having done this process I feel much more calm and I am able to view the events impartially. I can see now that his reaction was from his own fears and concerns about Mum.

Comment on Assignment 1 by Cindy

Cindy — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 19:32:17 +0000

1. Feelings: angry, frustrated, anxious
2. She doesn’t respect me; she thinks she is exempt from this; he will take her side; my job is in jeopardy; she is ignoring the rules; she is wasting my time.
3. I conceptually realize not everyone would feel the same way or think the same things. I can get a glimmer that my feelings and meanings are not inherent in her actions. BUT I still have difficulty seeing that there could be any other meanings FOR ME.
4. I still WANT to be angry because I don’t like what she did. It’s hard to accept that my anger won’t change anything (at least, not for the better!). But, I don’t like that my feelings about that incident are poisoning my free time, and it’s only ME making it happen.
5. I have put some distance between the event, my feelings, and my meanings. I am also putting more distance between me and my feelings and meanings. Thus, my feelings and meanings aren’t inherent in me either; they are something I feel and think, NOT something that I “am” which would be unchangeable and keep me stuck.

I am feeling more positive not only about the situation, but my ability to live life more “lightly” and increase my peace and enjoyment.

Comment on Assignment 1 by Benjamin Parry

Benjamin Parry — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 01:02:23 +0000

1. I had been meaning to phone up a friend for a while and each time i put it off there was building up a bigger nervous anxiety around making the call.

2. The meaning was coming from this idea that its been so long since i’ve spoken to him already he probably doesn’t want to hear from me anyway, I’m not worth talking to

3. The event would be dialing the number and speaking to friend, asking questions and responding to words – the meaning is only coming from my end and doesn’t have any real truth to the pure events

4. I feel a lot more open and expanded about making the call – I actually just did it and there was no anxiety and I was actually pleased when he answered and there was nothing in the way of our conversation, it was just fun. I do still feel a tiny faint, deep anxiety when i think about it with a few other people but it doesn’t feel like the same issue.

5. Well it made it easy for me to act, carry out the pure events without all the baggage i was trying to load onto it so yes- worked for me

Comment on Assignment 2 “what if” by Kat

Kat — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 02:11:17 +0000

1. Event : starting a business for which I received recent training.
2. What ifs: What if I start it and I can’t help anyone? What if no one wants to retain me? What if I fail? What if I don’t have enough time to do the business and my school? What if I look like an idiot to people?
3. I will look like a fraud and look stupid. I will be a failure and there will be no bailout to look forward to. There will be no second chance – game over. The business will fail and I will have invested money for nothing. Then all the posturing I have done to appear smart will have been for nothing. I will lose all respect. People will laugh at me.
4. What’s really happening – I took training and have the skills to start my own business. If I don’t try, then there will be no business to succeed or fail.
5. The distinction is in reality I have prepared to do this business … that is real, but the what ifs are only thoughts and are not real at all.
6. I feel lighter … Releasing what ifs is very liberating.

Comment on Assignment 1 by Kat

Kat — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 15:23:11 +0000

1. Negative feelings: anger, frustration, panic, despair, fear
2. Meaning: Nobody cares about me, nothing ever works out
3. Event: a company delivered poor customer service in dealing with medical benefits: Meaning: I personalized their actions
4. How the feeling has changed: I recognize their incompetence has nothing to do with me personally so I feel lighter because I can release the negative feelings.

Comment on Assignment 2 “what if” by Ilyas

Ilyas — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 07:33:25 +0000

1. Avoiding visiting organizations to find a job.
2. What if they reject me? What if I can get a job just by staying at home. What if I don’t need anybody’s help? What if I donot want to stay in this city?
3. The Occurring involved: I feel frustrated thinking I will be rejected. I felt powerless as I thought I might leave this town because of the bad weather so there is no need to look for a job, because if I find one, I will stay here. I do not want to stay here, this means I will not move to look for a job and the people here are not helpful.
4. The reality of the situation. It is raining here as many places. Jobs are not easy to find nowadays because of recession. But If I decide to stay , I need to move and look for a job and build friendships. Or I have to move to other city, but I need to move and look for satisfying job.
5. Reality: This is part of descion process whether I will look for just a job or community to live for long time. It seems that I have to decide first whether to stay in this city or move to other one to start my future community and work.
6 I felt relieved